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"I’m So Stupid"

Updated: Jun 8

"I’m so stupid."

This is what I often used to say to myself when something didn’t go the way I wanted or when I felt I had done something wrong, or repeated the same old pattern. It was a phrase that came all too easily to my mind, and each time it echoed in my head, it chipped away at my confidence and wasted precious time and energy.

Until I learned the truth: these thoughts stemmed from my unconscious mind. They were the result of deep-seated beliefs I had formed about myself and how life works. Recognizing this was a turning point for me. It was liberating to understand that these negative self-assessments weren’t the truth—they were just old programming.

So, what can you do when you catch yourself in this pattern?

Here’s a simple, effective strategy:

  1. Notice It and Breathe! When you find yourself thinking, “I’m so stupid,” pause for a moment. Simply acknowledge the thought without judgment.

  2. Acknowledge this: “It’s my unconscious at work.” This response is crucial. It helps to depersonalise the thought and recognise it as a product of your unconscious mind, not your true self.

  3. Drop into your heart and ask yourself: “What is my next obvious step to get the result I want?” Shift your focus from self-judgement and what hasn’t worked to the end result you want to create. This question prompts you to be in the Superconscious and move forward.

  4. Take the Step! Once you identify the next step, act on it. Taking action will help you break free from the cycle of negative self-talk and move closer to your end results you want.

Implementing these steps will transform how you respond to setbacks and mistakes. It shifts the narrative from self-criticism to self-compassion and practical action.

If you’re ready to unlock your full potential, I invite you to schedule a discovery call with me. Together, we can work on strategies tailored to your unique needs and help you achieve the results you desire.

Take the first step towards a more empowered and confident you.


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